I have a close friend and I’m kind of at a loss with her at this point. Every time she starts seeing someone new, she gets attached really fast. And then if the guy goes a bit quiet, like slow replies or even just a couple days of no contact, she immediately jumps to “yeah this is done, he’s not interested”.
I get why she feels that way, but at the same time it just feels like a pretty normal early dating thing to me. People get busy, not everyone texts the same way, especially when it’s still new.
I’ve tried reassuring her so many times, like telling her not to read too much into gaps in texting, but it keeps happening with every new guy. Same pattern. She gets excited really quickly and then crashes just as fast.
Now she messages me about it almost every time and I honestly don’t know what to say anymore without just repeating myself. Has anyone dealt with a friend like this? What do you even say at that point?
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